In recent times, very often we learn and news of aggression and bullying in middle and high schools and, this happens not only among teenagers or classmates but also towards teachers. This incites the whole community to reflect and not remain indifferent to such actions that harm not only those who denote bullying but also all of us, starting with the simplest citizen, parent, teacher and others.
Unfortunately, bullying is becoming very common among those who will be the future of this globe. Just a few days ago, a 16-year-old boy attacked his classmate with a knife right near the school, yet another attacked his teacher in front of the whole class. No one intervened, everyone with their mobile phones in their hands filming the scene. This makes us reflect on how much the world has changed. In our time, no one dared to disrespect those who gave us good manners and instructed us. We didn't do it out of fear; This was because we had great respect for our professors. If the opposite happened (I would rarely point out), we would arrange meetings not only with the parents but also with the pupils. Family played an important role in this. No parent went against the school, against the principal or the teachers. The relationship between school - pupils and parents was created and functioned correctly and with dignity. There were good rules that they attributed only to the positive trend to live in a society where good manners were the principles and values as it should be. Perhaps, 30 or 40 years ago we were poor, we missed so many things, yet we were so smiling and happy because we were full of smiles and affection of brotherhood.
Bullying is the manifestation of the serious problems that today's young people carry within themselves. The difference between yesterday and today means that there is more number and growth of sometimes dramatic events. Technology, well-being, that somewhat distant but very affective relationship with our parents, the solidarity chain of having a lot of respect for those who were older than us, leaving a free seat on the bus to the elderly or pregnant women, giving sincere greetings or wishing well without selfishness and hypocrisy, being ready to intervene to help those in need, Valuing and putting into action all that our parents and grandparents taught us, important elements in our growth, were fundamental. And it was the latter who were our psychologists who understood us on the fly if something had gone wrong. This happened because we were very close and shared endless moments with the family; Today the opposite happens: from an early age, children isolate themselves, create a vicious circle, play on mobile phones with virtual companions, and this produces artificial intelligence: the coldness of children robots, the innumerable games sometimes harmful, so our children become insensitive, they fully acquire loneliness, they carry within them anger and resentment towards parents who hate each other, divorce each other, not guaranteeing in any way a stable growth to those who carry and gradually develop psychological problems, full of desire for expression and venting towards those they wish to belittle, believing and being convinced that those in front of them do not deserve to be on their equal. Only a healthy family grows and makes healthy beings available to society. The human perspective must extend to the individual and global level on the problems that are making the earth sickest the most, thus destroying nature. A very effective comparison would be not only between school and children but above all between parents and children. I think it is useless to repair the damage of bullying that a child causes to others, by going to a psychologist, (obviously this is very necessary), but it is necessary that the parent pay more attention to those who grow up and those who have in front of their eyes but who often fail to see, horrified by their selfishness of not accepting in the first place the failure of having raised a child that heralds not only bullying but also delinquency, because if it is not brought out at the right time, those who vent by psychologically and physically targeting the weakest, a troubled future awaits him.
© Angela Kosta
Elbasan, Albania
kostaangela078@gmail.com
[Angela Kosta is Academic, Journalist, Writer, Poet, Essayist, Literary Critic, Editor, Translator]
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